The Importance Of Having An Open Mind
Integrating various styles of play into your sex life can be a quick and simple way to breath new life into the bedroom. The innumerable possibilities for incorporating play into the bedroom means there is something there for virtually everyone; in fact, the options are only limited by both partners’ willingness to experiment. Therefore, we encourage both partners to keep an open mind and approach new or unfamiliar things enthusiastically. Fun and sexy games can positively restore novelty back into your sex life, especially when the games are introducing something new that you and your partner have never done.
Forbes Magazine notes the seven benefits to having an open mind, underscoring the overall lifestyle as exceptionally positive, rewarding, and advantageous.1 On those grounds, the value of approaching different styles of play with an open mind becomes apparently clear, especially during the process of sorting through your options and selecting a set of possibilities. It’s much to our own detriment when we pass on those options that are way out there, and extreme; during the selections process, consider all options, even if they seem a little too intense. The benefits to open-mindedness are, by and large, simply to great too overlook. Consider the following benefits listed below (loosely based on Forbes); these alone hint at the advantageous properties associated with open-mindedness.
1. Open-mindedness means letting go of control.
Find the distinction that separates you from an idea, mark it, and use it to free yourself from your thoughts. This may seem rather complicated at first, but the underlying ideas are rather intuitive and are accessible with a brief clarification of its individual components. Revisiting the instructions that were initially indicated gives us a clear starting point, which distinctly points us towards scrutinizing the fundamental differences between a person and their thoughts, presumably because this helps us comprehend how it’s possible to free oneself from their thoughts. Markedly, our observations reveal a thought is just that, a thought, and nothing more. People have control over their thoughts and have the power to resist them; the same, however, cannot be said for its converse. A thought lives in an invisible realm and exists only because we acknowledge its presence. A thought has no autonomy of it own and the reality is that beliefs alone cannot coerce behavior, and stays in its intangible form until someone chooses to embody its principles and give it a material form. The opportunities for beliefs to materialize in some form or another are under complete control of the individual. So why then do people let their thoughts, beliefs, preconceptions, etc. drive their behavior? People in a way confine themselves to their own beliefs. Hence, letting go of control produces additional opportunities to discover possible ways to increase your quality of life. For example, being open to try a more kinky form of bedroom play can lead you to a discovery that increases the quality of your sex life. A discovery that would never happened if you were closed-minded.
2. Open-mindedness means experiencing changes.
With an open mind, your beliefs are subject to influence from new ideas and have the opportunity to either harden by reinforcement or change to some degree. In effect, experiencing change gives you the option of creating positive change for yourself by adopting new and more beneficial ideas. For example, being open to the idea of adopting less conservative sexual attitudes could be beneficial if presented with a convincing argument that poses benefits with engaging in less restrained sexual behavior than with highly restrained sexual behavior (corroborated by substantiating evidence). Such willingness to adopt new values in exchange for greater benefits lets you to take advantage of every opportunity for self-improvement. Such opportunities go unclaimed by closed-minded people and become a disadvantage.
3. Open-mindedness means making yourself vulnerable.
With an open mind, you’re more open to the idea of experiencing something new or unfamiliar even if it’s outside of your comfort zone; accordingly the novelty of the situation forces you to recognize your ineptitude. In effect, making yourself vulnerable incentivizes working with another person, as you can use the discrepancy between each other’s knowledge to makeup for the inconsistencies of your own knowledge. Such an interdependent relationship not only makes the experience go by more smoothly, but actually acts as a formidable force that significantly strengthens the relation between each other, across the entire duration of the experience. For example, being open to the idea of experiencing some new form of bedroom play with your partner that calls upon some of the more intense forms of play (e.g. BDSM, fetishism, or role play), which are markedly unfamiliar and outside your comfort zone, can serve an alternate purpose of improving the quality of a relationship and function as an exercise to strengthen the relation between both partners.
4. Open-mindedness means making mistakes.
With an open mind, you put yourself in novel situations and are at a greater likelihood of making some kind of mistake. In effect, making mistakes can be a source of knowledge being that it teaches us what doesn’t work.
5. Open-mindedness means strengthening yourself.
Within an open mind, ideas are experienced collectively; so that they add up, one idea on top of another, like a single multi-dimensional perspective that enables you to better understand the world around you. In strengthening yourself you enable yourself to see happenings through different perspectives and can allow you to be more understanding of others.
6. Open-mindedness means gaining confidence.
With an open mind, you inevitably build an extensive understanding of the world and your individual position within it. Gaining confidence in of the world around you and your ability to navigate through it allows you move freely with a sense of sureness.
7. Open-mindedness means being honest.
With an open mind, you’re honest enough to recognize that the world is much to complex to know everything, and encourages you to learn from any possible source of information. Being honest to yourself about the impossibility of knowing everything prompts you to acknowledge your ignorance and value in every source of information. For example, in a conversation this understanding comes off as having a genuine interest in what a person has to say, which creates an underlying sense of authenticity that permeate the character of the person.
1. Williams, David K. “The 5 Secret Strategies Of Great People: How To Become Open Minded In 2013.” Forbes. http://www.forbes.com/sites/davidkwilliams/2013/01/07/the-5-secret-tricks-of-great-people-how-to-become-open-minded-in-2013/.
Last Updated: 24 November 2015.