What is the G-Spot?
The G-spot, more formally known as the Grafenberg Spot, is named after the German gynecologist, Ernst Grafenberg, and is an erogenous area in the female vagina. When the G-spot is properly stimulated, some females may experience sexual arousal that can lead to orgasm.
Where is the G-Spot?
The G-spot is located approximately 2 to 3 inches inside the vaginal canal on the anterior (or front) wall of the vagina. When the G-spot is not stimulated, it is said to be about the size of a small bean. However, when stimulated and aroused, the G-spot swells and gains texture, this area will more closely resemble a bump compared to the surrounding tissue. However, not all females have been able to locate their G-spot, leading some sexologist to believe that not all females have a G-spot.
Locating the G-Spot
There are many ways a female can locate her G-spot. Masturbation, sex toys, oral sex, manual stimulation, and penile/vaginal sex are all popular methods through which females have been able to reach a G-spot orgasm. Sexologists have found that it is easiest for a female to locate her G-spot when she assumes a position where she is either squatting or laying on her back. After assuming this position, the female should then exert pressure on the vaginal wall closest to her naval by inserting one to two fingers. Once the fingers are inserted into the vagina in this manner, many females reported successful stimulation of the G-spot by making rhythmic motions over this erogenous area in a “come here” motion. Keep in mind that not all females may find or even enjoy G-spot stimulation. It is normal for some females to have a harder time stimulating the G-spot than others, and if it becomes uncomfortable, then it is recommended to use a lubricant, or try other techniques that may be more pleasurable. The following list includes strategies that females can use in order to stimulate their G-spot either on their own or with a partner:
Before engaging in any sexual activity, there are several methods of communication that can help females and their partners experience a G-spot orgasm. To start, it is helpful to have open and honest communication between partners. Regardless of how long partners have been involved with each other, it is extremely beneficial to use straightforward and open communication. If a female has sexual preferences or has an idea of how to reach her G-spot, she can guide her partner. This direct communication will give a better indication to the partner about where to focus, and what to avoid. If a straightforward approach seems too bold, giving other verbal or even non-verbal feedback can help guide a sexual partner in the right direction. An example of non-verbal communication that a female can use is placing her hand over her partner’s hand and moving it in a rhythm and location that is most pleasurable for her. This can give the female’s partner a hint about the best way to pleasure their female partner.
While it is understandable that people may want to rush through or even forgo foreplay in their quest to locate the G-spot, missing this crucial step may prevent someone from finding the G-spot at all. It is vital for females to relax and fully embrace their arousal in order to locate the G-spot. Spending some extra time on foreplay can create natural lubrication, often making sexual activity more pleasurable, and making it easier for a partner to stimulate the G-spot. Kissing, petting, oral sex, and manual stimulation are all great examples of foreplay that can help partners work their way to an orgasm. Sensate focus is also a great addition to foreplay because it allows both partners to relax and become comfortable exploring each other’s bodies. There is no set amount of time for foreplay, as each female responds differently to unique and specific situations.
While using oral sex alone cannot stimulate the female’s G-spot, engaging in oral sex while using a sex toy or manual stimulation to reach the G-spot can add increased amounts of arousal and erogenous sensation. The female’s partner can perform oral sex in a variety of positions, including the “69” position. Each female responds to oral sex in a different way. Many women enjoy oral sex while trying to reach a G-spot orgasm, while others may dislike oral sex, or believe that the oral sex distracts from the sensations of the G-spot. Oral sex prior to any attempts to stimulate the G-spot can be a great addition to foreplay and provide natural lubrication for other sexual activity.
When using manual stimulation on oneself or on a female partner, in order to reach the G-spot, it is recommended to insert one to two fingers, palm side facing up. The pad of the fingers should be used to rhythmically stimulate the G-spot, a bean-like, rigid structure located two to three inches along the anterior (or front) of the vaginal wall. Stimulating the clitoris while simultaneously stimulating the G-spot can lead to added pleasure, increasing the chance of orgasm. Sex toys, such as vibrators, can also be used while “fingering” or manually stimulating the G-spot.
Fisting is when a partner places their entire hand into a female’s vagina for increased penetration and stimulation. This is often an activity that partners take time to work up to, considering the potential harm or discomfort that may follow its hasty or incorrect application. When fisting, one of the easiest positions is when a female lies on her back. Make sure the hand being inserted is palm-side up. While inserting one’s hand into the vagina, it is best to place the thumb near the middle or ring finger and then close down with all fingers, in a duckbill fashion. This will give a partner easier access into the vagina and is often more pleasurable for the women. While many women report fisting as a pleasurable experience, it is important to take things slow, and start with only one or two fingers, gradually moving to the rest of the hand. Fisting can be helpful when attempting to find the G-spot as the middle and index finger naturally reach the top the vagina where the G-Spot is located.
It must be noted that while many women find fisting pleasurable, there may be some difficulties and dangers associated with it. It may not be possible to completely engage in fisting until repeated stretching of the vaginal opening has taken place. To aide in the process, it is recommended to use lubrication, which will help ease more fingers into the vagina. Every female’s vagina is different and it is important to be careful not to tear or harm the vaginal opening in the process of fisting. Going slow and taking adequate time can help protect against vaginal harm. Make sure that the fingers and hand are clean and sanitized in order to prevent infection.
Sex toys are usually a great way to locate and stimulate the G-spot. One of the most popular sex toys for G-spot orgasms are vibrators, which are often shaped in the form of a penis. G-spot specific vibrators differ from traditional vibrators by integrating a much more dramatically curved tip, a shape that makes reaching the G-spot much easier. For those who have difficulty achieving a G-spot orgasm from manual stimulation or penile/vaginal sex, vibrators can be a great addition to one’s sex life by promoting novelty and more targeted stimulation. One great example is a “rabbit vibrator”, a type of sex toy designed for both G-spot and clitoral stimulation. The “rabbit vibrator” is similar to a G-spot vibrator, but has an additional component that will arouse the clitoris when inserted into the vagina. Simultaneously stimulating both the clitoris and the G-spot can lead to enhanced sexual pleasure for the female and gives her the best chance of achieving orgasm.
While sex toys can add novelty to a person’s sex life, it is crucial that they are properly cleansed and maintained in order to prevent infections, and the transmission of STI’s; proper sanitation also increases the longevity of the sex toy. It is highly recommended to purchase a sex toy specific cleaner that often comes in a spray format. Using methods other than a sex toy specific cleanser may be detrimental as it can ruin the sex toy and may not properly cleanse the device. Sex toys should be sprayed and wiped clean after every use for maximum safety.
Of the countless sex positions, researchers have found that two specific styles are the most effective at reaching the G-spot.1 It had been found that rear entry and woman on top are the best sex positions for reaching the G-spot because the male’s penis has better access to deeper penetration.1 For rear entry, commonly referred to as “Doggy-Style,” the female positions herself on her knees and hands. The male then positions himself behind the female and inserts his penis into her vagina. While the male is traditionally more in control in this position, the female still has the ability to lean back and “grind” against her partner.
The “Cowgirl” is the most common sexual position in which the female is on top. This position allows for the female to control the rhythm and depth of penetration, enabling her to find the most pleasurable and stimulating position while also enhancing her chances of locating the G-spot. This position also gives the male the ability to touch or suck on the female’s breast, as well as manually stimulate his partner’s clitoris. This is often seen as a more intimate position due to the fact that both partners are facing one another and can maintain eye contact.
To enhance other sexual positions in the quest to locate the G-spot, “wedge pillows” may be a great resource. These firm pillows are shaped in ways to place the female’s body in positions that allow for deeper penetration and better angles. The “wedge pillow” also takes away the physical pressure of having to hold a certain position for too long, giving the female the ability to relax and enjoy various sexual positions for longer periods of time.
Two female partners may also utilize these sex positions by using a “strap-on” or other devices that can stimulate the G-spot. They can use sex toys in similar positions to also reach a G-spot orgasm. Female partners can also engage in “69,” where one female lays down flat on her back as her partner lays on top of her while facing the other direction. This position allows for oral and manual stimulation, as well as the use of sex toys. In the “69” position, both female partners may be able to achieve a G-spot orgasm at the same time.
Many females are able to find their G-spot on their own through masturbation and the use of a sex toy. As mentioned above, using a G-spot specific sex toy, such as a “rabbit vibrator” is often an effective way to experience a G-spot orgasm. Masturbating can be an intimate experience because a female is able to explore her body all on her own. Of the many different positions females may use to masturbate, the one that allows for the easiest access to the G-spot is often referred to as the “Gyno” position. Nicknamed after the position many females assume when being inspected during a gynecology exam, the “Gyno” position is when a female lies on her back and spreads her legs both upward and outward. Then, with the palm side face down, the female inserts her middle finger into the vaginal canal, while trying to hit the top wall of her vagina, the area closest to her navel. This position allows for deeper penetration of the finger, and easier access for G-Spot stimulation. By masturbating, females have a higher chance of reaching a G-spot orgasm because they are the ones who best know their bodies and what is most pleasurable to them. Having time alone to explore one’s body often takes the pressure off of females and gives them the ability to locate their G-spot in a private and comfortable setting.
Putting It All Together
In order for the most effective results, females should find the combination of methods and techniques that works best for them to find and stimulate their G-spot. Instead of relying on just one technique, mixing it up and creating novelty can add excitement, increase arousal, and give females a better chance of reaching a G-spot orgasm.
Still Unable to Find the G-Spot?
If using the methods listed above still leave a female unable to find the G-spot, the best thing to do is stay positive. Everyone is unique and in fact, a commonly cited study in the Journal of Sexual Medicine reported that only 56% of female participants believed that they had a G-spot.2 It is also a common belief among many sexologists that the G-spot is not present in every female. However, in the same study, it was suggested that psychological and environmental factors might have a more important role than genetics in the prevalence of females who report having G-spots. While genetics does play a factor in one having a G-spot, psychological factors such as a positive attitude and belief can also help in locating the G-spot. Therefore, having an open and positive attitude about integrating the stimulation of the G-spot into one’s sex life is often the best place to start. In fact, as one ages, it becomes easier to orgasm!3 It is just as important to enjoy the time one spends focusing on themselves or their partner as it is to look forward to achieving orgasm.
Sexologists have long debated the reality of the G-spot and it still remains a controversial issue. Some believe that it is a myth that has only been perpetuated by popular culture, while others believe that the G-spot actually exists in a number of females. Many renowned sexologists and psychologists have taken a stance on this topic. Sigmund Freud believed that there were two specific types of female orgasms, the “immature” clitoral orgasms, and the “mature” orgasm, which he accredited as the more arousing and pleasurable vaginal climax. Famed sex researchers William H. Masters and Virginia E. Johnson disproved Freud’s position by arguing that all female orgasms originate from rhythmic contractions of the genital muscles. Based on their study results, Earnest Grafenberg then argued that the stimulation of the G-spot led to contractions around the uterus, leading to orgasm. Despite recent technological advances, the question of whether or not the G-spot actually exists is still up for debate as there has been evidence to support both sides. However, many females still embark on the quest to stimulate the G-spot in order to discover for themselves.
For females who report having a G-spot, they note that it is normal for a female to feel the need to urinate when the G-spot is stimulated. In order to prevent this feeling, it is recommended that a female empties her bladder prior to engaging in sexual activities. There have been reports of females ejaculating fluids during a G-spot orgasm, but this does not necessarily happen to all females. However, there is no definitive answer as to why these females ejaculate during a G-spot orgasm and what the fluids are comprised of.
There are many ways females can locate and stimulate their G-spot. If on the first try a female is unable to locate her G-spot, she should not panic communication, foreplay, oral sex, fingering, fisting, sex toys, sex positions, masturbation, and lubrication can all help to stimulate the G-spot. Keep in mind that not every female has a G-spot, and if a female does not believe she has one, that is completely normal. Whether it is by oneself or with a sexual partner, the search to find the G-spot can be just as pleasurable and fun as actually stimulating it.
- Jannini, Emmanuele A., Beverly Whipple, and Sheryl Kingsberg. “Who’s Afraid of the G-spot?” Wiley Online Library. Journal of Sexual Medicine 5, 5 Jan. 2010. Web. 06 Apr. 2016.
- Landau, Elizabeth. “Finding the G-spot: Is It Real?” CNN. Cable News Network, 05 Jan. 2010. Web. 06 Apr. 2016.
- Jio, Sarah. “10 Things You Didn’t Know About Orgasms.” 10 Things You Didn’t Know About Orgasms. Woman’s Day, 05 May 2015. Web. 06 Apr. 2016.
Last Updated: 16 May 2016.